Comparison.. The confidence killer

Comparison is a confidence killer

Many times when we see someone that looks nice or seemingly happy we subconsciously and consciously compare our circumstance, situations and even entire lives to their highlight reel.

What is a highlight reel?

It’s kind of like a movie trailer. Think about a new movie for a second. Normally when it comes out you’ll see a trailer of it online and on TV. They always show the best parts of the movie to get you excited, revved up and ready to run to the box office and go grab those tickets once the movie comes out. Sometimes we’ll watch the movie and we’ll realize that the only good part of it was the part that we saw in the trailer.

The truth is, we have no idea what a person may be going through. We have no idea what may be going on in their lives. Most times people are not going to tell you when things are not looking good in their lives. They’re going to show you the best parts because they want to appear happy and they want you to cheer for them. You may want to be happy but you don’t have to do that at the expense of your own confidence or ability to be comfortable with where we arein your own life.  

Trust me, I’ve been there! Constantly comparing where I was to where others were. It’s a painful and discouraging place to be and I eventually got tired of it!! Overcoming that comparison mindset is a process but, it’s necessary and doable. Here are 3 tips on how you too can overcome…

  1. Understand life is a PROCESS

Great things take time and nothing happens overnight. Everything requires work and patience.

  1. Trust that God CAN and WILL do it.

God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all you can ever ask or think Ephesians 3:20

3. Congratulate without comparing

Pray!! Get to a point where you can hear good news about someone else and you can genuinely congratulate them without allowing yourself to compare. I prayed!! I asked God to bless the person and to allow them to be successful and to allow me to be able to be genuinely happy for them.

The next time you feel inadequate ask yourself “Have I been comparing or congratulating?”





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