Do I really have what it takes??

Three months ago I began a new job with a women’s prison ministry and although I was ecstatic for the opportunity I was also scared. I knew I was supposed to be there. God had lead me to the job posting and even got me through the extensive interview process without a hitch. Coming from a corporate background with only volunteer experience in the non-profit sector I felt inadequate in the beginning. All of my coworkers seemed so educated, knowledgeable and confident but all I felt was “OMGosh what if I fail?” “What if I don’t meet the standards and or get along with everyone?”

I remember after a few days of studying the words I heard them using that I didn’t understand, praying and asking God ” Why do I feel this way? I thought this would feel different!” And I heard Him respond as clear as day “Are you a social worker?” I started to crack up laughing because I realized that I went into my new job trying to take on the nature of my coworkers when all I was supposed to do was go there and be me. My feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and fear caused me to attempt to put on a hat that couldn’t fit and I didn’t even like.

New opportunities, as great as they are, can often times bring on performance anxiety and fear. We have to remember when walking in new beginnings that God qualifies us to be where we are because of who we are. He never intends for us to be anything other than who and what He creates us to be.

Thankfully, I’ve learned to be comfortable being me and that has been good enough!

Have any tips for overcoming anxiety or fear? Share in the comments below!

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be fearLESS

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Fear of opinions? No way!

Fearing people is a dangerous trap but trusting the Lord means safety.

Proverbs 29:25

Let’s be honest, we’ve all had times where we wondered what someone may have thought about what we said, did or even wore. Many times we’ll make up this whole scenario in our heads about it too. But we can never be too sure what people truly “think” about us and or why. Most people form opinions about others through the lens of their own insecurities and because of that their opinions can be bias and false. Sometimes we can trick ourselves to believe that people have formed opinions about us based on our own insecurities. We’ll make a mistake and wonder “OMG did she see me do that? I wonder what she thinks?” or if there’s been a tidbit of gossip circulating about us,I wonder if she heard such and such about me?”

Fearing people and their opinions can cause us to act in ways that we hope will ensure their approval of us, even if they’re ungodly. If we’re not careful we can allow that fear to create feelings of inadequacy, rejection, and anxiety. Truthfully, we are all flawed in some way shape or form. Even the most perfect looking person, with the most perfect looking life, has their fair share of issues.

When it comes to worrying or even fearing other people’s opinions keep this in mind…

Your insecurities are based on 100% of your flaws, flaws that other people may not even be privy to. And in case they are, who cares? They have flaws too!

When thoughts of what people think about you try to rise up in your mind tell yourself this…

“Man can’t validate what he didn’t create!”

Then remind yourself of what your Creator has said about you. God’s truth about us trumps the opinion of others and even our own opinions about ourselves. I mean He did create us, clearly, He knows us best.

Don’t allow yourself to get caught up fearing what people may think about you. Trust who and what God says about you. He thought you were special and good just the way you are and you’re safe with Him.

The LORD is for me so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?

Psalms 118:6

Got tips on how to deal with the fear of opinions? Leave them in the comments below!

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

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