Do I really have what it takes??

Three months ago I began a new job with a women’s prison ministry and although I was ecstatic for the opportunity I was also scared. I knew I was supposed to be there. God had lead me to the job posting and even got me through the extensive interview process without a hitch. Coming from a corporate background with only volunteer experience in the non-profit sector I felt inadequate in the beginning. All of my coworkers seemed so educated, knowledgeable and confident but all I felt was “OMGosh what if I fail?” “What if I don’t meet the standards and or get along with everyone?”

I remember after a few days of studying the words I heard them using that I didn’t understand, praying and asking God ” Why do I feel this way? I thought this would feel different!” And I heard Him respond as clear as day “Are you a social worker?” I started to crack up laughing because I realized that I went into my new job trying to take on the nature of my coworkers when all I was supposed to do was go there and be me. My feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and fear caused me to attempt to put on a hat that couldn’t fit and I didn’t even like.

New opportunities, as great as they are, can often times bring on performance anxiety and fear. We have to remember when walking in new beginnings that God qualifies us to be where we are because of who we are. He never intends for us to be anything other than who and what He creates us to be.

Thankfully, I’ve learned to be comfortable being me and that has been good enough!

Have any tips for overcoming anxiety or fear? Share in the comments below!

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be fearLESS

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Fear of opinions? No way!

Fearing people is a dangerous trap but trusting the Lord means safety.

Proverbs 29:25

Let’s be honest, we’ve all had times where we wondered what someone may have thought about what we said, did or even wore. Many times we’ll make up this whole scenario in our heads about it too. But we can never be too sure what people truly “think” about us and or why. Most people form opinions about others through the lens of their own insecurities and because of that their opinions can be bias and false. Sometimes we can trick ourselves to believe that people have formed opinions about us based on our own insecurities. We’ll make a mistake and wonder “OMG did she see me do that? I wonder what she thinks?” or if there’s been a tidbit of gossip circulating about us,I wonder if she heard such and such about me?”

Fearing people and their opinions can cause us to act in ways that we hope will ensure their approval of us, even if they’re ungodly. If we’re not careful we can allow that fear to create feelings of inadequacy, rejection, and anxiety. Truthfully, we are all flawed in some way shape or form. Even the most perfect looking person, with the most perfect looking life, has their fair share of issues.

When it comes to worrying or even fearing other people’s opinions keep this in mind…

Your insecurities are based on 100% of your flaws, flaws that other people may not even be privy to. And in case they are, who cares? They have flaws too!

When thoughts of what people think about you try to rise up in your mind tell yourself this…

“Man can’t validate what he didn’t create!”

Then remind yourself of what your Creator has said about you. God’s truth about us trumps the opinion of others and even our own opinions about ourselves. I mean He did create us, clearly, He knows us best.

Don’t allow yourself to get caught up fearing what people may think about you. Trust who and what God says about you. He thought you were special and good just the way you are and you’re safe with Him.

The LORD is for me so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?

Psalms 118:6

Got tips on how to deal with the fear of opinions? Leave them in the comments below!

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

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Fear vs Faith

Fear is a faith LESS sin. “Fear not” and “Do not fear” are all commands/ directives given by God in scripture multiple times, Yet, fear is usually our first response to an issue, problem or difficult situation. I know this because, for a large majority of my life, I lived from a subconscious place of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of something being wrong with me, fear of something bad happening in my life, you name it and there’d always be an opportunity to fear.

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

Fear is NOT a normal response to life’s issues for a believer. Because fear itself shows a lack of faith in God’s promises and provisions. Faith is the only response to fear and the only way to truly overcome it.

How? Confidently trust in and rely on God. Go to Him in prayer and read His Word, rest in what He promises and believe that He will do what He says.

It may not always be EASY but it sure is POSSIBLE!

Have some tips on how to overcome fear with faith? Share them in the comments below!

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

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Summer Time Fine: Everyday Makeup

Hey ladies!

So as you all know… 90 degree weather and makeup just DONT mix!!

Last weekend I recorded my latest tutorial on my everyday makeup routine for the Summer time. Click below to learn how to slay your foundation, eyebrows, lashes and lips even in the heat!

While you’re there.. Share and Subscribe!!! So many of us need this info!!

 

Got some tips to add?? Post them in the comments below…

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Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

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Foundation NO NO for women of color 

As a woman with melanin I’ve learned that everything on the market will NOT work well with our skin tone. It’s important that we know what products to use as well as what products to stay clear of.

Check out this tutorial to learn this one major NO NO and some alternatives. https://youtu.be/fo9rHG-0WCE

PS.. If you need help matching your foundation, finding the products that will work well for you.. Grab a copy of my makeup guide Master The Match while it’s on sale for $7!! Grab yours here:  Master The Match

Do you have your own foundation NO-NO’s for WOC?? Share them in the comments below!!

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Be BEAUTIFUL 

Be YOU

 

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Help! How do I prepare my look for my speaking engagements?

As the saying goes when you look good you feel good… When you show up knowing your visual presentation is on point you perform better. Your visual presentation is closely related to your confidence and if it is on point it will assist (alongside great content and oral presentation) with ensuring you have a stellar performance.

Here are 3 tips to preparing your look for a speaking engagement

1. Have a clear vision of the look you’re going for and how you want to be perceived
Indecision will make you feel confused, frustrated and uncomfortable in your clothes. This will undoubtedly have a negative impact on your performance. It’s ok if you don’t immediately know the exact makeup/ outfit choices that you need to pull your entire look off but start preparing by at least getting an idea of the look you want.

2. Ensure your ideal makeup look is natural and complements your skin tone and outfit
Heavy or improperly matched makeup can be distracting and will take all the attention off what you say and place it on how you look. Make sure your foundation application is natural and that your makeup as a whole enhances your best features.

3. Hire help
Some speakers, coaches and women of influence in general struggle in this area because they either believe their visual appearance doesn’t matter or they refuse to get help thinking its unnecessary. Truth is… it’s necessary. We live in a society where 1st impressions determine how people perceive you. You want to be perceived as your BEST! There is an expert that can answer any question you may ever have including on how to present yourself successfully. Don’t be afraid to hire one that you can learn from, feel comfortable and grow with.

If you need help with enhancing your visual presentation contact me here and let’s schedule a one on one consultation to discuss your needs!

Have some tips of your own? Share them in the comments below!!

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Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

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3 Questions Every Female Speaker Should ask Herself Before Going on Stage

As a speaker your visual presentation is JUST as important as your oral presentation and content! 

With the number of speakers constantly on the rise it’s important that when you go to  speak at different engagements you not only provide great content to your audience but you do so in excellence ensuring you are looking the part!

I’ve compiled 3 questions every female speaker should ask herself BEFORE going on stage to ensure she not ONLY shows up…. but, that her visual presentation is on point allowing her to make a great and lasting impression!

1. What is the environment?? Casual, Creative or Corporate?

Know your environment

Knowing your environment will give you an idea on their style of dress and that will be your clue on how you dress. The last thing you want to do is show up under dressed at a corporate function or overdressed speaking to students. If you’re unsure visit their website for clues on their dress code.

2. Who’s my audience? CEO’s, Business Professionals, Students, Children?

Know your audience

People want to know that you can relate to them so it’s IMPERATIVE that you know EXACTLY who you’re talking to. You want to show up looking like you know what your talking about and looking the part. When booking your engagements ask the question What type of audience will I be speaking to? Do your research to ensure you can APPEAR relatable. Remember this is ALL about LOOKING the part!!

3. Am I overdoing it with makeup and accessories?

Less is more!

The goal is to look like yourself with a little more UMPH!! Your makeup should give you an evenly smooth complexion but you also want to look polished and NATURAL. Heavy overdone makeup can give off the wrong impression and too many accessories can be flashy and SUPER distracting. So be sure to keep it light…. Literally!

Asking yourself these 3 questions will point you in the right direction to ensuring you are presenting your entire self at your best!!!

Have questions on how to successfully show up at a speaking engagement?

Connect with me on FB Messenger and let’s chat about it!! Connect with me here: Connect with Shanae

Be BOLD

Be BEAUTIFUL

Be YOU

Shanae

 

5 Ways to enhance your Self-Image

Self-Image is everything! 

The way we see ourselves determines the way we act, live and how we expect others to treat us!

Its important that YOU see you as beautiful, important and valuable before anyone else does.

Take this 4 Part journey with me as I give you 20 Ways to Enhance your Self-Image.

Part 1 is below…. follow my blog and join my email list for for a free gift (5 Tips to Slay Everyday) and to be notified when I post the remaining parts .

 Lastly, Share this with your girlfriends…. I’m sure were not the only ones who need to hear this!

 

Be BOLD 

Be BEAUTIFUL 

Be YOU

Shanae